What Codependent Payoff
Am I getting from my relationship with G?
– he is accepting my bad behavior. Like I do with him, he always gives me another chance
– I don’t have to be accountable for myself around him
– I can take out my frustrations from years past on him: he is an excuse for me to be angry
– I can replay my vulnerability in jeopardy over and over.
– I don’t have to be an adult… I can have excuses for not accomplishing things, for not getting things done…
– I have an excuse for not taking care of myself
– I don’t have to try and fix me; I can say that I don’t have time…